Overcast

Overcast

max temp: 3°C

min temp: 2°C

ESTD 1874 Search

Ipswich: Brave trio pull together for their first Christmas without popular mum Shirley Bugg

09:00 24 December 2012

Hannah, Olivia and Rochelle Bugg who are spending their first Christmas without mum Shirley

Hannah, Olivia and Rochelle Bugg who are spending their first Christmas without mum Shirley

Archant

THREE brave sisters are closing ranks as they face the first Christmas without their popular mother.

Rochelle, Olivia, and Hannah held Shirley Bugg’s hand as she lost her battle with a brain tumour aged 56 earlier this year.

Christmas for the girls, who lost their father James to pancreatic cancer in 2000, will be just the three of them at home in Ravenswood, Ipswich.

Rochelle, a former pupil at Saint Felix School in Southwold, said: “Lots of people have invited us round but we’ve all sat down and discussed it - we don’t know how we going to be and we don’t want to have to put on a brave face on when we don’t want to.

“It’s been difficult because I think what’s the point in putting up a tree or writing Christmas cards? But then you catch yourself and say ‘come on, make an effort’ and hopefully in the future it will get easier. I just keep expecting mum to burst through the door.”

Shirley left her post at Ipswich High School for Girls after falling ill in November 2010 – symptoms that were thought to be from a mini-stroke. But further scans revealed a tumour and the positioning of the growth on the brain stem meant doctors could not operate. Shirley, who also taught at Saint Felix School, died at home in April surrounded by her daughters.

Rochelle became an online hit when she launched a blog (www.abuggslife.com) describing how she was coping with the progression of her mother’s disease.

The 27-year-old, who is moving to Manchester next month to be a freelance copywriter, said she hopes to turn the blog into a book to help people going through similar ordeals.

Reflecting on the last year she said: “When I try to be normal that’s when I realise there’s something missing. I started back at work and I called mum on the first day to tell her how it was going but then I realise she wasn’t there.

“It’s the same with Christmas - it’s something that’s always been there and I have taken it for granted.

“We have all tried to keep busy as much as possible but there was a three-week period in September/October of the anniversary of my dad’s death, then my parents’ wedding anniversary, then my mum’s birthday and then my dad’s birthday.

“It was especially tough because it reminded us over and over again that they are not there anymore.

“But the situation could be so much worse. When I’m feeling down I just think back to this time last year and if we can make it through that - when she was ill and we did Christmas - we can make it through anything.

“I’m ready to start afresh and when something like this happens it makes you realise there’s so much out there to experience.”

0 comments

Traffic

A driver has been forced to pull over on the A14 after an “object” fell from the back of a lorry, smashing their windscreen.

The Orwell Bridge.

Two breakdowns on the Orwell Bridge were reported to be causing delays for drivers this morning.

Police at the scene of the armed raid in Clacton

Detectives investigating a “very frightening” attempted armed robbery at a north Essex supermarket in which shots were fired have recovered a car used by the suspects.

Community leaders fear the park and ride will bring more traffic into Wickham Market. Credit: Mike Page

Park and ride proposals linked with Suffolk’s new nuclear power station are anticipated to more than double traffic volumes through parts of a village – causing “extreme concern” for residents.

The We Love Bury St Edmunds supporters photo bomb the statue of St Edmund celebrating over a year since the group was born - founder James Sheen

Andy Abbott reports on how Facebook group “We Love Bury St Edmunds” has brought thousands of people together from across the globe.

Emma King from Ipswich  died from leaukemia aged 17. Left to right, Emma's step-sister Jamie Green, her mother Kathy King and step-father Shaun Green.

The mother of a brave Ipswich teenager who died of a rare form of leukaemia at the age of 17 says she ‘always had a smile on her face’.

Ex Royal Air Force Serviceman Richard Philpotts, of Stowmarket, Suffolk was sentenced on 16 January 2017 to three years’ imprisonment following conviction in relation to a single victim of one offence of indecent assault on a child below the age of 14, committed between 1986 and 1987.

A former RAF corporal and scout master has been jailed at a court martial for three years for the sexual abuse of a boy scout more than 30 years ago in Germany.

Most read

Great Days Out

cover

Click here to view
the Great Days Out
supplement

View

Most commented

HOT JOBS

Show Job Lists

Streetlife

Newsletter Sign Up

Sign up to the following newsletters:

MyDate24 MyPhotos24